Moms from Hell!!!

It has been quite a while since my last post.
So, 
I was reading up on my current events a couple months back, flipping thru google and what not. 
I found some interesting articles
:
'
Devil 
Moms 
Who 
Make 
Mommie 
Dearest 
Seem 
Angelic' 
Boy, do 
I know a few like that, lol, but sorry they have to remain nameless. 
Ha, as they said, there are mothers who are made in heaven, and then...mothers who come from the lower rungs of purgatory. 
Well, if that isn't putting it lightly....

Mothers who are pittiful lost souls or their very existance is to make their children's life a living hell - these moms don't even deserve the title.
They make me very angry, so this is why 
I don't watch the news or movies pertaining to these vitrolic fictional/true life moms.

Children get told so many lies, by their mothers who fall into cracks along the sidewalk. 
So a very unhappy mom, who may be used to getting her way, becomes frustrated and angry. 
And without taking the time to love and cherish that perfect little angel 
(who won't stay little long
) she now stays in panic mode and taking it out on those around her, who does not understand what's going on.

A once carefree mother/wife who has everything is always wanting more, more, more.
Now known as problem mom, who might
I add, made up her own non-existing problems in her head.
She reluctently criticizes her husband and her children,  turning her back  on them, while seeking in faceless strangers and bad habits, seeking,seeking for something that she never will find. 

Not there anyways, that's because what you seek, you did not lose
(not yet
) it was here under your nose the whole time.
Devil moms try to convince themselves that they are not the problem, that it is everyone else.
Hug and
Kiss your husband who works so hard to support you and your carefree, better life, because ladies, and
I say ladies because every woman has the potential to be just that
"a lady
" ---
Ladies, don't take him for granted thinking it doesn't matter how you treat him, because he will always be there.
Because, he won't, there are great dads and husbands out there, picking up the slack.
Some do more than their share, playing the role of mommy and daddy.
He's turning his head, hoping that this too shall pass.
It will pass....pass right on by you.

Substance abuse no matter what kind will lie to you, making you the bad mom that you never wanted to be.
Always living a life of incidents that worsen, lying to the very ones you love.
A once normal life spirals out of control whether from drug addiction or alcohol abuse.
I know, because
I have lived and re-lived this curveball life has thrown at me so many times.
Mamas you need to learn to suck it up, deal with it, appreciate what 
God has given you, and stop with the
"it's all about me
" fuckin bullshit.
It pisses me off to no end.
You have been given a golden role to play as caregiver to your family, teacher to your kids
(they learn from
you
) and you are the comfort zone he can't wait to come home to after a bad day.
What's waiting for he who holds a broken heart, is an empty house.
She got bored, or he forgot to mow the grass, so what
Devil
Woman
?
The only lessons taught here are lies, broken trust, using people, hate, dis-satisfaction, restless, self hatred, dominating, and last but not least a fiend who is never happy, craving unadulterated power to control others.
Listen up, throw
Mama from the train
(not really folks, it's a movie
) because she will always be chasing that high of that first bite of true happyness.
I can't say
I'm sorry if anyone gets offended reading this, it is what it is.
Some moms are soul devouring, sucking the very life out of the life she help to create.
It is your life, your right, absolutly, and yes it is always your decision.
I hope you make the right one, live and let live, learn unconditional love, and learn to be happy with what you got.
Don't tell your kids lies telling them that her DAD was the one, that he didn't want you or the kids, that he didn't want to see   that baby whether she/he is 7 or 16, it makes an impact, the wrong one. 
Those babies are a gift from 
God, that means you did something right. 
Not everyone that deserves it gets to experience that gift. 
And just because you were on the recieving end of a true gift, precious bundle of joy, 
D
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S 
N
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M
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Y
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D
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I don't care if you quit reading right now, but somebody needs to see this, and they will read it to the end. 
I hope devil mom, monster, whoever you are 
I hope you find all the answers you are seeking and are able to teach yourself valuable lessons before it's too late.
I explain best I knew, the story was the same throughout the family, that this MOM from Hell, would do this
?   
Kids do not need to hear or be involved in adult conversation. 
They are kids, let them be kids. 
You are their shield, don't fight in front of them, don't argue in front of them. 
Don't belittle the children or the other parent. 
It gives them a complex of never being good enough. 
And just because you fucked up, don't teach them to hate the other parent.  
Don't talk bad about that absent parent in their pressence. 
Why
? 
You say...duh, because when my daughter ask me
(after her own seeking
)why 
I never spoke bad about him, 
I said 'because you need to get to kbow him, his ways, try to form a relationship on your own, you learn by doing' and if 
I had taught her he was bad then that destroys two relationships.
It does not matter that you loathe this man because of your mayhem that he left. 
It's not about you. 
A good upstanding mother should always put her children's welfare above her own. 
She thinks twice, once for her, and then again for her children. 
(i think i saw that on pintetest
)

It's okay, we all fuck up from time to time, just pick yourself up off the ground, dust yourself off and try again. 
Tomorrow's a new day, another chance, don't hate yourself. 

Learn to forgive yourself, before you ask it from others. 
It's truly an amazing characteristic to have. 
My mom once asked me
' how is it that you are so forgiving and nice to the many peoplr who has done wrong by you
?' 

Welp, you know if you keep brewing anger and holding grudges, you just think you are hurting that other person. 
When in reality, anger swells up with a toxic poison that will do nothing but destroy the very vessel it's contained in.

Children are allowed at least once, yes at least once they will say they hate you. 
But for the love of 
God, don't beat them into telling you they love you. 
You have to teach, they say i hate you -well hey you know what, that means 
I'm doing my job right as a mother, and hey i will always love you, no matter what. 
Don't tell kids you hate them, or they are evil, they don't know any better until you teach them - but you do.

Don't try to blame others, you wrote that storyline.

Sure, every now and then maybe a jaw check is in need. And by that I mean pop
one time. Not beat them with your fist. Every child has a smart mouth, sure.
But no kid deserves that.

"Single dads are sick and tired of being labeled "deadbeats" when it comes to paying child support and being the only support beam holding up a heavy load makes one weak.
And the percentage of "deadbeat" moms is actually higher than that of dads who won't pay, and those who go against justice whether right or wrong.

Don't expect more out of others than your willing to give yourself. 


It's no easy task by all means, life doesn't come with instructions, you have   to work at it everyday. 

But hey, everyone deserves a second chance, but only one, so if you find that you are lucky enough to get one, don't screw it up again. 
Try....

It's ok not to be perfect, 
but it's never ok - to not try.

You can't change everyone else, but you can change yourself.


I wish you all love and happyness.

And don't forget to love yourself.

xoxo
j 
:)